Many people are confused about what assertiveness is and how it is different from aggression. Assertiveness is all about rights and responsibilities, when you have a certain right but also have certain responsibilities to you. So what does it means in practice?
Being assertive means being able to stand up for your own or other human rights calmly and positively, without either being aggressive or passively accepting wrong. Assertive people can get their point across without offending others or disturbing themselves. Assertiveness means to be honest with regards to what you need, want, feel or believe in a way that respects others opinions.
Here are some tips to help you learn to be more assertive.
Confidence is the key to assertiveness.
You will never look confident if youre lying, and youre not sure what youre saying. Prepare yourself content well before any event /presentation/ important task and ensure that it is accurate and revised.
Always opt for honest communication.
Remember to respect other people when you are sharing your feelings, wants, needs, beliefs or opinions.
Breathe normally, look the person in the eye, keep your face relaxed and speak in a normal voice.
Choose your words wisely
speaking to the point is always better. If you dont know anything, say a No instead of giving lame excuses.
Being assertive is a skill that needs practice. Remember that you will sometimes do better at it than at other times, but you can always learn from your mistakes.
In many aspects of life, assertiveness is crucial to success. Your ability to make decisions, recognize your strengths and to be able to match your emotions in your daily life can make a huge difference between being successful or not and enjoying your life experience. Being assertive, it gives you the focus, the drive and the determination to stick to the tasks that positively affect our lives.
Its a communication skill that can reduce conflict, build self-confidence, and improve working relationships.