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Things You Need To Know About Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch

By HopeQure


16 Dec 2020

In today s scenario, with an increase in the number of childhood sexual abuse and rape cases, it has become essential for guardians to talk to their kids about the differences between appropriate and inappropriate. A survey showed that one in every two children is a victim of sexual abuse. Furthermore, one in every five children fear sexual abuse and do not feel safe (Hindustan times, 2017). It is also essential to talk to children about sexual identity and sexual development. Children get curious and start exploring their bodies by touching or rubbing their body parts even the genitals, at a very young age. These years require appropriate guidance such as role, safety, and what privacy and private parts mean.

Explain with examples what constitutes safe touch as well as unsafe touch. You may explain "safe touch" as a way people show feelings of care and nurturance for each other (like; gentle hugging). Whereas "unsafe touch" isa forced or unwanted touch (e.g., touching private parts). You can make your child learn about what is acceptable and what is an unacceptable touch; also that s/he must retaliate by saying "NO" and inform you (or teacher if at school) about any inappropriate or unsafe touches.

Be sure to use the terms of safe and unsafe instead of good or bad. This is important because if the child is unsafely touched, he or she may internalize the situation as I am bad now because I was touched like this or this happened because I am bad (Shinde, 2019).

Clear guidelines: Ensure that the child knows it is not okay for anyone to touch or even have a glance at their private parts. It becomes easy for children to follow a rule, and they will recognize a bad touch. You can use the swimsuit rule for children below seven years to explain private parts (parts covered by aswimmingsuit).

Limit media exposure: Parental control settings are available on almost every device. Be cautious that children may knowingly or unknowingly discover adult sexual behaviours through screens. Pornographic content may be shown to a child by peers or predators in your absence. Ask your child to report this to you if any such thing occurs.

Using the right words: Make the children learn real names for all body parts,including genitals words (like penis, vagina, breasts and buttocks ). Made up names may indicatesomething wrong and may also make the child curiousto find proper names.

Encourage queries: Do not refuse to answer the questions of a curious little mind. However, your answer should depend upon the child s age-ability to comprehend andmaturity.

Handling curiosity: Do not laugh or mock even if you find the queries are silly. Even do not react aggressively or disgustingly. Be sensitive and do not make the child feel ashamed for his/her curiosity. Answer the queries clearly and precisely,using simple words.

Keep it short and simplified: Do not go into an elaborative explanation. For instance, a pre-schooler needs not to know the details of sexual activities or reproduction. All information shared with the children must be appropriate for their age.

Big NO to forced hug: Do not ask your child to give hugs or kisses to people if they do not wish to do so. Be it grandparents, other relatives, or even the parents. It should bethe child s right to tell whether they want or do not want to hug someone.

Keep reinforcing the idea that their body is their own and they shall protect it. Also, reassure your children that you will listen to them, trust them, and want to protect them.

Written By- Bhavika Madaan

Things You Need To Know About Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch


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Shinde, S. (2019). A Plea to Use Terms Safe Touch and Unsafe Touch Instead of Good Touch and Bad Touch in Personal Safety Education. Institutionalized Children Explorations and Beyond, 6(1), 86-88.

Hindustan Times. (2017). One in every two children victim of sexual abuse saysthe survey. Retrieved fromhttps://www.hindustantimes.com/india-news/one-in-everytwo-children-victim-of-sexual-abuse-says-survey/story-spc4MsZTJsmjyrlTZJep7L.html


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