An Open Letter To My Ex-Boyfriend Who Left Me
Written By: Counselling Psychologist
M.Sc. Psychology - Swansea University, UK.
Reviewed By: Counselling Psychologist
MA Psychology Pennsylvania State University, USA
Last Updated: 25-04-2023

An Open Letter To My Ex-Boyfriend Who Left Me


Dear Ex-boyfriend,

I have been well. I wish you well too. I know it has been really long, but I want you to know that I do not hate you now. I have happily moved on and I genuinely want to thank you for doing what you did.

I tried so hard to understand what made you leave me, but I couldn’t. I constantly questioned myself. I thought of myself as unlovable. I didn’t even think of dating anyone else for a very long time. I eventually stopped. I realized it was simply unhealthy.

When you left, you don’t know what I went through. We both have been together since school and we basically grew up together. You were there to handle all my moods. And so it took me a long time to understand why you would do this to me! I could not eat for days. I hated talking to anybody and felt like no one genuinely liked me. You made me question every relationship I had.

My concentration worsened, self-doubt began, and most importantly I spiraled down into negative thinking. I was unable to fall asleep and had mood swings frequently. You wronged me by not even explaining the reason to break up with me. You wronged me by denying me the right to ask you the reasons and ignoring my messages. I lost trust in love, relationships, and so many other things.

After several months I pulled myself together and got the courage to seek help through online counselling for relationships. It made me healthier and I regained a hold of my life and other relationships again. I came back stronger than ever and I want to thank you because you played a major role in this.

I will say this, I have never regretted a single moment that we spent together. I will forever cherish our memories. I forgave you. I discovered various things about me that I had not found with you. This helped me develop more courage, self-esteem, and confidence. Due to this I now have someone who loves me unconditionally.

So thank you for going away, thank you for showing me that I was rooting for something that was not meant to be. Thank you for making me strict about who I let into my life. Most importantly, I am grateful because I got to know a new side of me that I am super proud of. I am also grateful I chose to take care of myself with the guidance of relationship counseling. Your abandonment taught me to stand up for myself, gain courage, and move on.


Your Ex

An emotional blog entitled "An Open Letter to My Ex-Boyfriend Who Left Me" reveals the author s feelings after a tough breakup. The author s pain and desire to move on are expressed in the letter, which also emphasizes the need of getting help when you need it. The article highlights the advantages of online tele-counselling and urges readers to speak with therapists to assist them in coping with the fallout from a breakup. The author provides consolation and validation to readers who might be going through a similar scenario by sharing their own experiences. The blog serves as a heartbreaking reminder that getting professional assistance can have a big impact on how quickly one recovers from a breakup.

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