How Do I Know If My Relationship Is Healthy?
Written By: Counselling Psychologist
M.Sc. Psychology - Swansea University, UK.
Reviewed By: Counselling Psychologist
MA Psychology Pennsylvania State University, USA
Last Updated: 31-03-2023

How Do I Know If My Relationship Is Healthy?


Relationships are an integral part of human life. They can be classified in many ways such as romantic, friendly, acquaintances, etc. A major role played by relationships is their potential to provide support, love, care, and nurturance. Such factors are not only essential to living a healthy life but also help us define the nature of healthy relationships.

Healthy relationships have various elements. These elements represent some of the most positive and constructive qualities that help build and sustain relations. Their presence also helps us decide the influence of our relationships on us.

Some of these elements are:

  • Mutual Trust: Trust for one another, in any relationship, allows people to understand each others’ choices, values, and boundaries. When mutually shared, the trust provides a strong base for relationships.
  • Mutual Respect: Respecting each other in relationships is a significant quality. It not only conveys regard and concern but also provides freedom to let each other express our individuality.
  • Understanding: Knowing and accepting the other person for who they are, bolsters mutual understanding in a relationship. Thus, understanding each others’ choices, ideas, needs, desires, etc., is a gradual, yet important part of any relationship.
  • Individuality: Finding freedom to be one’s individual self is an important attribute of a healthy relationship. This allows the opportunity to understand how individual identities make the relationship more special and unique.
  • Effective communication: The ability to communicate well with each other is the heart of all relationships. This enhances trust, transparency, and openness. Thus, it is important to be a good listener to attend to the other person’s concerns. In addition, being assertive helps to express personal emotions and thoughts well.
  • Compromise: It is essential to find the “middle path” at various junctions in relationships. An individual can’t get everything, just as they want it, at all times in a relationship. Thus, a more effective way is to reach a compromise between what is desired by both parties.
  • Support system: At the end of the day, any good and healthy relationship must build on the supporting and encouraging environment one wants around themselves. A healthy relationship is something an individual can basically count on for support and guidance, especially in difficult situations

Another way of knowing how positive and healthy one’s relationships are is by being aware of how they make us feel. Thus a healthy relationship will:

  • Let you be your individual self:
  • Make you feel secure
  • Give the freedom to maintain other relationships
  • Promote equal distribution of responsibilities and privileges.

A healthy relationship can have many more attributes as well. However, the more important idea is to understand that constructive, and consistent measures are the beacons of a good and strong relationship.

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