There is a tremendous contrast between responding and reacting. A reaction is normally snappy, absent a lot of thought, tense and forceful. On the other hand, a response is thoroughly considered, quiet and non-compromising. A reaction ordinarily incites more reactions – sustaining a long queue of scorn with nothing cultivated. Whereas, a response normally incites conversation – propagating sound conversation (banter even) that prompts goals.
The two of them might seem similar to us. A collaborator, subordinate or prevalent says something that triggers a feeling. It could be in a gathering, email or over an easygoing lunch. What occurs in the following couple of moments anyway decides the contrast between responding and reacting.
Somebody who is responding quickly hits the answer and flames of a blistering tirade and hits send before he takes his next breath. An easygoing lunch discussion abruptly takes an extremely negative curve finishing off with awkward quiet. An ordinarily quiet, splendid representative retreats to ridiculing in the every day meeting. Response, without intuition prompts annihilation.
Then again an individual who is reacting hits answer, types their response and never sends it. They go for a stroll, consider a proper method to react and do so when feelings have subsided. They handle a misguided remark from a collaborator by concentrating on the circumstance, not the individual. They address strife in the meeting room with conversation and comprehension. They react and subsequently resolve rapidly.
Reaction is speedy or instantaneous. Response requires some serious energy/effort. Reaction is feeling filled. Response expels all feelings. The reaction is frequently forceful. Response takes into account emphatic ness without hostility. Reaction usually snowballs into superfluous and delayed times of discontent and contradiction. Response rather settles strife rapidly.
As grown-ups we understand it’s better to take time or to take a pause rather than instantly reacting. However, more regularly than we might want, our feelings defeat us and we react.
I want to leave you with a thought that, Is social media (instagram likes, Facebook or Linkedin reactions) affecting how we act in a given situation?
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