Google says, “Comparison is a consideration or estimate of the similarities or
dissimilarities between two things or people.” But do you know what this mere
comparison does to the human mind?
Comparing oneself to others is human nature, whether favourably or
unfavourably. Favourable comparisons enhance self-esteem and make people feel
better about their circumstances in life, while the constant negative
comparison of yourself to others may have the opposite effect.
Whether done by self or by others, negative comparison can bring about drastic
changes in thinking patterns, behaviour, the personality which could lead to
an unknown mental pressure on the person. This is known as the theory of
social comparison and it states that people are constantly making self and
other comparisons across a variety of different attributes such as beauty,
wealth, intellect and achievement.
There is a strong correlation between the desire to seek information on social
comparison and low self-esteem,
depression
and neuroticism. Unfortunately, there is a common temptation with the
widespread availability of social media to skim through posts from several
other people and try matching yourself with others. Social comparison and
mental health may be more of an issue with modern technology than ever
before.
A modern term associated with the use of social media is a problem known as
"smiling depression" in which an individual seems to be happy, smiling and
positive, but is actually sad and lonely in reality. People on the internet
are trying to create perfect representations of themselves, and the pressure
to maintain the illusion of happiness can lead to depression. Many choose to
mask the negative aspects of their lives and yet equate these moments behind
the scenes with other people s highlights and reels online.
Although not comparing yourself to others in the modern world can be
difficult, it is important for people to understand how detrimental social
comparison can be to our well-being. If we could somehow find different ways
to view social media and our natural social comparison tendency, it can help
to reduce problems of self-esteem and depression.
When it comes to comparisons in life or on social media, a good approach is to
look at the positive characteristics of other people as an example or
something to learn or get inspired from.
It may be too difficult to avoid social comparison entirely since it is an
instinctive psychological activity that allows us to assess our own
self-worth. But discovering new ways to reduce and manage your comparison with
more positive and constructive activities can help minimize the damage to your
psychological health that this might cause.
Taking time out of every day to feel grateful is a perfect way to manage
social contrast and depression. Creating in yourself feelings of appreciation
for all the opportunities you have can make you feel better
In case you wish to seek therapy from an
online psychologist, contact HopeQure.