What changes by the end
Not promises — the things people actually report.
- The checking loop broken, with a plan for the moments it returns
- A version of the story that is true rather than cruel to you
- Your own routine, friends and evenings back
- Clarity on what you want next — including 'not yet'
Anyone in the first year after a break-up, divorce or a relationship that ended without ending.
The plan, week by week
All of it, before you pay.
Sleep, appetite, contact, checking — the honest baseline.
This week: Log contact and checking for a week.Grief or rumination — they need different help, and this is where we tell them apart.
This week: One agreed change to the checking.Rewriting the account so it is accurate instead of self-punishing.
This week: Write both versions.Rebuilding the evenings and weekends that were shared.
This week: Reclaim two evenings.Blocking, muting, mutual friends, and what to say.
This week: Set one boundary.Session four: what you want, and how to know when you are ready.
This week: Write your 'not yet' list.What's included
- 4 one-to-one sessions with a counselling psychologist (50 minutes each, video or audio)
- A 6-week plan with one practice a week — never homework for its own sake
- Worksheets and summaries after every session, kept in your account
- Message your clinician between sessions
- Progress measured, so you can see what moved
- Asha for the days in between — free while you're on the programme