Dating someone with mental health issues

 

Nearly one in every five adults, according to the National Institute of Mental Health, has a mental disease. Because of the stigma that often accompanies mental illness, many people who suffer from it may find it more difficult to date and form meaningful relationships. When they find someone, it is critical that he or she is empathetic and eager to establish a positive relationship despite the circumstances. Dating someone who is dealing with mental health challenges can be difficult, but with enough effort and the right limits, you can build a good connection.

The realm of mental health can be overwhelming, especially for those who are dealing with the daily hardships that such a condition can bring. But also, for those on the outside looking in, whether it s a friend, family member, or even a co-worker. When you re dating someone who has a mental illness, things might get even more challenging. Finding out your partner has a mental health problem doesn t necessarily indicate the relationship is doomed, and it s now easier than ever to get information to assist you understand what your partner is going through.

When you first discover of your partner s condition, the first thought that may spring to mind is to opt out. You could believe to yourself, "I can t manage this." Or perhaps you re asking yourself, "What have I gotten myself into?" The answer is that you ve gotten yourself into a relationship that you now recognize may have a few more stumbling blocks, but what relationship doesn t? The most important thing to remember is that your partner s disease does not define him or her in most circumstances.

Here are basic steps to maintain a healthy relationship and support your partner:

 

  1. Understanding

This is not just talking about being understanding; this is talking about truly comprehending your partner s predicament. Encourage your partner to share this information in the early stages of your relationship, however, may be easier said than done, so pick a time when you re both calm and comfortable with each other—and keep in mind that they re possibly discussing something very personal. Avoid being judgemental, rather, experience what is going on in their lives, both physically and mentally.

 

  1. Patience

Patience is required. I can almost guarantee that your partner wishes things were different and that you didn t have to see him or her in this manner. You must reassure your partner that "normal" is not what you desire, and that you desire for him or her to be happy and healthy. That you don t feel sorry for him or her and that you merely want the best for him or her.

 

  1. Support

On the journey to recovery, having a partner who can provide healthy support can be beneficial. However, it can be cruel to intentionally join a relationship with someone who has a mental condition just to abandon them in their hour of need. When a person is suffering from anxiety, depression, PTSD, or other mental illnesses, what they typically need is warmth and support from others who sincerely care about them and want the best for them. Knowing what triggers anxiety or discomfort for them (whether in your own conduct or in the behavior of others) allows you to be better prepared to deal with, or even avoid, these trigger circumstances.

 

  1. Space

Because dating and caring for one s mental health can be demanding, romantic relationships may have to be put on hold so that the person can focus on his or her mental health. This means that on some days, one s partner may prefer alone, while on others, he or she may crave companionship. A caring and understanding partner can provide the space that the other person requires for the development of balanced emotions and adequate recuperation. Taking time away from a person so they can focus on rehabilitative care (without being penalized in the relationship) may be the best option for the well-being of a highly impacted partner in some instances.

 

  1. Therapy

It s important to remember that you should never try to be a personal therapist for someone you care about who has a mental condition. Trying to help a spouse with psychological disorders without the correct expertise and skills can be inconvenient, if not disastrous. However, assisting the individual in locating appropriate therapy is an excellent alternative.

 

Sometimes, a person is in denial about their situation and is unable to seek treatment without external incentive. Symptoms and discomfort may linger and get more severe if the person does not seek treatment to relieve and eliminate their mental illness. When dating someone with a mental illness, it s critical to encourage them to seek the care they need to start healing and thriving in life. Even if he or she is uncomfortable confessing the truths of the difficulties that create stress, encouraging him or her to do so with a mental health care expert can be critical on the road to recovery.

 

Here are Examples of the steps in simpler terms:

 

When you are dating a person suffering from mental illness, you must

  • Empathize with the partner to understand what they are going through.
  • Always avoid confrontation towards their irrational thoughts as these thoughts are the part of their illness.
  • Providing an ear to hear works greatly with mentally ill individuals as they get a channel to vent out all their negative feelings and thoughts.
  • Not be judgmental, aggressive, and demanding with their partner in this case.
  • Be more emotionally available and encourage your partner to socialize to some extent.
  • Taking your partner for short walks outside also helps in elevating their low mood state.
  • When your long-term partner gets diagnosed with mental illness, be calm and psycho-educate them that it is as common’s fever these days and give assurance to your partner that you are always there to support.

Your support will go a long way in their life as well as in your relationship. They’d be forever grateful for you to be by their side during their hardest of times!

 

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